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I have been asked this question too many times.  In fact, one of the most popular ways this question is presented is “I don’t want my guests to call me to ask, so is it okay if I simply list my gift registry on my wedding invitations?

The simple and honest answer is – NO, you should not include any gift registry information on your wedding invitations (either directly printed on your main/formal invitations or on one of your enclosures).  Traditional Wedding Etiquette considers, the inclusion of any gift information to be in very poor taste.

So how should you get the word out to your guests? There are two ways to do this:

1. Family and Friends: You simply share your wedding registry details with your family and close friends and allow them to pass this information along to your wedding guests when requested.

2. Wedding Website: You provide a “conservative” link on your wedding website with the registry information and then include your wedding website on one of the inserts or enclosures on your wedding invitations.  Do not list your wedding website directly on the main/formal invitations.  You may notice that I used the word “conservative” for the registry link on your website.  This just simply means do not overemphasize the words “Gift Registry” on your wedding website.   Simply posting a link on your home page gives your guests the option to click on the link hence leaving the decision of buying you a wedding gift or gifts entirely up to them.

For more tips on how to effectively use your wedding website, you may read my earlier blog post: “How to use a Wedding Website”

Vivian @ Event House


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In my last post – “Free Wedding Websites” I highlighted some popular wedding websites you may use to communicate additional wedding information to your wedding guests.  Be sure the wedding website you select reflects your personal style and taste as a couple.  Do your best to only include “enough” information and not “overwhelming” information on the wedding.  As a general guide, you may use your wedding website or wedding blog to communicate the following wedding details:

1. Your Personal photos (especially as a couple)
2. Your personal stories (for example – the proposal or engagement story)
3. Hotel Accommodations
4. Transportation or Travel Guide or Arrangements
5. Gift Registry
6. Side Attractions
7. Manage RSVP or Responses
8. Updates on your wedding plans
9. Any additional wedding information you feel will be helpful to your guests.
10. Post Wedding Information such as honeymoon photos.

As an invitation designer, I have included wedding websites on response cards, personalized map cards and guest information enclosures that go along with (and not printed directly on) the formal invitations.  Take a look at the following custom wedding map I completed for a couple showing their wedding website.  To view more maps I have produced for many brides and grooms, visit my website at www.EventHouseDesign.com

Custom Wedding Map Showing Wedding Website at Event House
Custom Wedding Map Showing Wedding Website by Event House

Vivian @ Event House

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“Thank You” – two words we often take for granted.  I have learned the importance of these two words and I have made a personal commitment to always show, write and speak them as often as possible.  Too many times we get so consumed in our busy schedules that we fail to show gratitude, especially expressing gratitude on a note card.

Regardless of who you are and what you do – a Bride, Party Host, Wedding Vendor, Business Owner – I want you to make the following a personal commitment.  Write and mail a personal thank you note to the people who make things happen for you.  Especially if you were the selected choice of many other options.  Please note, an email saying thank you may not be sufficient in some cases and should be avoided especially if an efficient mail system is available where the recipient resides.  A warm sincere direct handwritten note (written by you) in black or dark blue ink should be mailed out.  Please do not send a pre-printed thank you card, as it does not show your good concern and adequate gratitude.

For a Bride – a thank you note should follow within 2 weeks following a bridal shower and within 2 weeks following your return from your wedding honeymoon.  Thank you notes should be sent immediately following the receipt of wedding gifts if received before the wedding.  This way, a lot of time does not elapse between the day you receive the gift and the day you send out a thank you note.

Should you send the same thank you note to the same person for two separate gifts?  The answer is No.  Be sure to send a seperate thank you note for each separate gift received at seperate times.   If you receive 2 gifts together, you may send a single thank you note acknowledging both gifts in the same thank you note.  But that is a lot of work?  Yes it is, but it’s worth it and it sure impresses your kind and generous guest or gift giver.

What if you have a “million” thank you notes to write? Well a million starts with the number 1 – Compile a comprehensive list one day and on the second, third, fourth, fifth day (and on, and on) write your thank you notes in groups. Do whatever you need to do, start writing, however brief, keep going, keep it fun.

So what kind of thank you notes should I use?  The most popular are personalized thank you notes either with your name(s) or monogram printed.  These always add an extra personal touch or you may purchase a note card with the words “Thank You” pre-printed only on the outside cover of the note folder.  One more quick tip, avoid starting or overusing the word “I” instead focus more on using the word “You”.   For thank you note samples and ideas.  Read our Thank You Note Idea page.

A thank you note speaks well of you as a person and makes you look great.  It also lets you leave a positive lasting impression on the minds of other people.  More importantly it makes you feel great as a person.  Think about it – if you gave the same kind of gift to two different persons and one sent a handwritten thank you note and the other a quick email or even nothing, what would you honestly think of the latter person?

Happy Writing!

Vivian @ Event House

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